A clothing line offering wearable protection for when things go wrong.
Clothing designed specifically to frustrate sexual assault.
This is rape culture
That is fucked up
Why are people so scared of murder? Y’all should feel pride that someone risked life in jail just to kill you
Literally that is how stupid these people sound to me rn
This is pretty disgusting right here.
Today, I read an article about a woman with HIV who was raped. The man that attacked her is now HIV positive. All of the commentary surround this was about how she should have told him she was HIV+ and that women with HIV should have a badge or special underwear so that this doesn’t happen to another man. It is 12:12am and I am already done with the world.
WAERSTRDHVYBJNKM.AWSERDFTBHJNKMJYTFYR. This is what Im talking about when I say double standard thing. weh. I mean, sure, he broke the law, he deserves to go to jail, or face up to his crime, but really. Imagine if this was a woman. A woman tried to rob a store, and then got the shit beaten out of her and used as a sex slave for 3 days as her punishment by the owner of said store. IT WOULDNT BE FUNNY. PEOPLE WOULD FLIP. SHIT.
Mainly, what Im trying to say here, is that this isn’t okay for ANYONE to do, whether its a woman to a man or a man to a woman. Rape shouldn’t be funny. You see this a lot, actually. That gif where the girl and guy are in some kind of argument and are both upset, and then the girl proceeds to slap/punch him multiple times, and then kiss him after, and it’s some kind of ‘romanticized’ cliche. It shouldn’t be romantic, it should be looked at just as if a guy punched a girl a few times in an argument and then tried to kiss her. It’s not good. It’s not, “Don’t punch me, because I’m a girl” It’s “Don’t punch me, because I’m a fucking human being.”
Also, on ‘The View’ when they talked about the case where the man got his dick chopped off by his crazy wife when he wanted a divorce and they proceeded to make fun at it. Imagine if a woman got her body mutilated by her crazy husband if she wanted a divorce.
Rape is never funny, and some people don’t seem to get that when the roles are switched and the male is being mistreated that it’s still wrong. I’m sorry if I’m letting the funny hype down and being some ‘asshole’ about ruining the joke, but I just don’t see this as funny. Rape is never funny.
^ BLESS YOU
i know everyone is going nuts about all of the other huge news stories going on right now but
A 15-year-old boy who was raped by a 34-year-old woman now faces child support in Nebraska.
This is the case for now 19-year-old Jeremy Steen, of Lincoln, Nebraska. In 2008, Steen was seduced and raped repeatedly by his 34-year-old baby sitter Linda Kazinsky. Sources testified that the sexual abuse took place weekly for nearly 3 years. After police were alerted, Ms. Kazinsky was arrested and charged with statutory rape and false imprisonment.
Kazinsky was employed as a babysitter for the Steens for nearly 3 years.
After Kazinsky’s release from Nebraska’s state prison system in 2012 she was able to regain custody of her child. The child had been a ward of the state for the first 13 months until Debra Kazinsky, Linda’s sister, was able to gain custody. After being reunited with her child, Kazinsky promptly filed for Aid and Government assistance which in turn landed Jeremy with a subpena for child support.
Jeremy had his day in court and was ordered to pay $475 a month in child support to Linda Kazinsky as well as a whopping $23,000 in back Child Support payments.
- This adult woman raped a 15 year old boy weekly over the course of THREE YEARS
- This woman only saw the inside of a jail cell for one YEAR
- This woman got pregnant with his child and WON CUSTODY OF THAT CHILD
- and this child is being forced to pay child support to his rapist.
- This 19 year old must pay her 475 a month
- and apparently owes her 23K in pack payments
- THIS CHILD IS LITERALLY PAYING FOR HIS OWN RAPE
- THIS IS NOT JUSTICE
- THIS IS NOT OKAY
I’d like you to remember the last time you found it difficult to give an explicit “no” to somebody in a non-sexual context. Maybe they asked you to do them a favour, or to join them for a drink. Did you speak up and say, outright, “No?” Did you apologise for your “no?” Did you qualify it and say, “Oh, I’m sorry, I can’t make it today?” If you gave an outright “no,” what privileged positions do you occupy in society, and how does your answer differ from the answers of people occupying more marginalised positions?
This form of refusal was analysed in 1999 by Kitzinger and Frith (K&F) in Just Say No? The Use of Conversation Analysis in Developing a Feminist Perspective on Sexual Refusal. Despite the seeming ambiguity in question/refusal acts like, “We were wondering if you wanted to come over Saturday for dinner,” “Well, uhh, it’d be great but we promised Carol already,” they are widely understood by the participants as straightforward refusals.
K&F conclude by saying that, “For men to claim [in a sexual context] that they do not ‘understand’ such refusals to be refusals (because, for example, they do not include the word ‘no’) is to lay claim to an astounding and implausible ignorance of normative conversational patterns.”
Like I’ve said before. There’s no excuse.
Sex Worker: Still not asking for it by dyke-recovery
I’m a feminist and a sex worker and i am so very, very sick of the “is it rape or theft if you fuck a hooker?” or the i use to get “You work in a strip club you shouldn’t get pissed off when someone tries to touch you, you’re the one working there”. Sorry but this is a service, not the selling of ones’ body or body parts. We own us, we decide how much we do, NOT the client or patron. We have the same rights as every other woman; to feel safe not only in our personal lives but in our work lives. It is not okay to do more than what is agreed to when paying for a service from a sex worker. If you are told no, you are told NO.
If a banker gets robbed did he deserve it because he is a banker? No.
If a soldier is shot during war, did he deserve to be shot purely for being a soldier? No.
Does a psychologist deserve to be verbally attacked because they’re paid to listen to other people’s thoughts? No.
So does a sex worker deserve to have their services abused purely because they are working in the sex industry? No.
Um I’m pretty sure a “sex worker” is just a fancy term for prostitution so I think that deems your argument invalid
Um actually a sex worker is a prostitute, a stripper, a cam worker, a porn star a porn model, a sugar baby so no my fucking argument is not invalid and if a prostitute says “hey man i don’t do x service” THAT DOES NOT GIVE THE CLIENT THE RIGHT TO DO X SERVICE JUST BECAUSE CLIENT HAS PAID FOR A SERVICE AND IF A SEX WORKER OF ANY KIND INCLUDING A PROSTITUTE SAYS NO THE ANSWER IS NO. “NO” DOES NOT BECOME INVALID JUST BECAUSE THE PERSON SAYING NO IS A PROSTITUTE.
Guys I’m allowed to say “no” to helping someone buy dog food if I’m too uncomfortable with them. Restaurants are allowed to say “no” so servicing you if they feel uncomfortable. Bars are allowed to say “no” to selling someone drinks, and they can kick you out of a movie theater for being disruptive.
If you’re threatening violence at any place of business, that business is allowed to refuse service.
So why would a sex worker have any different rights?
That’s clever. Using this argument forever, now.
pissed that this even had to be said.
For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.
No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:
“You know! Boys will be boys!”
“He’s just going through a phase!”
“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”
“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”
“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”
I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”
She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.
It was so tempting.
He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.
Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.
His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.
Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.
I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”
Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?
There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.
There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.
Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”
The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement
This is so brilliant. We learn things from socialization process. What our parents, friends and peers do, media and all. I think perhaps rape is because parents think boys will be boys, they bully, fight and destroy things, it’s their characteristics so they don’t bother to stop them. But it manifests in them, knowing or unknowingly, they will just think, because I’m a boy and boys tend to do these, so it doesn’t matter even if the girl hates it, says no, because I’m a boy.
Just reblog this, this message is really powerful. For parents and future parents.
What’s also interesting, is if you frame this as about spoiling your children, and about spoiled children, people tend to agree and get it. They’ll agree that children whose parents lay down no boundaries for them when they hurt others, who let them have whatever they want at the expense of others, and justify away the harm they do, will probably grow up thinking they can do this to others (usually weaker than them, or they perceive as weaker) as adults. But if you mention the word “privilege”, “entitlement” or anything relating to gender, everybody freaks the f- out and will deny up, down, back, forth, and sideways that how you raise a child, what you allow them to get away with, or training them that their hurtful behaviour will always be justified, can affect them at all.
ALL OF THIS.
Obligatry read FOR EVERYONE